Parents play an integral part in the emotional well-being of their child and/or adolescent. In the past, parenting techniques were simple and almost universally accepted. Over the past couple of decades, various disciplinary methods have been touted. Parents may have tried an array of techniques, programs, classes, and seminars, each claiming to transform their child into a well-behaved, respectful, and obedient son or daughter. Often, these methods failed, as they were not based on sound psychological methods. Parents are left feeling frustrated and helpless, and then feeling guilty for “giving-in.”
There is strong clinical data to support proper parenting techniques that are safe, easy, and effective. In my practice, I work with parents to teach them these skills and how to apply them to their children. One of the most important factors of these skill sets is to remove the emotional component that leaves parents feeling overwhelmed and over-stressed. Rules are clearly implemented and unacceptable behavior is addressed in a predictable and consistent manner. Whether using a chart or contract, I coach parents to address children and teens on a level they can understand, using their language. An understanding of the developmental and psychological needs of children and adolescence is a key aspect of successful parenting.